The Cinderella of your Story

This is the first time that I make a post like this.

I am going to be talking about something personal that I haven’t told many people around me, but I think it is related to this blog.

When I was a kid (and even know) I loved watching Disney movies. I was always daydreaming of being a princess.

Of all those movies, my favorite ones were Cinderella and The little mermaid.

I am not going to lie here, I always wanted to be a mermaid, even know. I always wanted to be able to swim all day without getting tired and being able to see and breath underwater without issues.

I never gave much thought about the reason why I loved those two princesses.

Maybe it was because one could understand land animals and the other one could communicate with water animals. I mean, I am an animal lover after all, so I guess that is a plus.

But now that I’ve grown up a little more another princess has been added to the list of my favorite princesses. This time is Rapunzel.

Let’s analyze these three princesses one by one real quick.

Ariel is: Impulsive, animated, and curious.

Rapunzel is: Artistic, passionate, and very curious as well.

Cinderella is: Kind, strong, and hopeful.

Now, two of them have matching traits. Ariel and Rapunzel are both very curious. But the one that I really admire the most is Cinderella.

As I said, and as you can also see in this blog, I am kind of impulsive (otherwise I wouldn’t be making this video), I am also passionate, artistic (as you can see in the “relaxing with art” section of this blog), and I am also very very curious about everything that is around me and all those things that I still don’t know but I certainly would love to discover.

Now then, why is it that I admire Cinderella so badly?

Well, she is a young girl living with a family that doesn’t love her. She is constantly bullied by those people that are supposed to take care of her. But at the end of the day, she remains the same. She is not mean, she is not aggressive. She knows that something good will eventually happen to her.

Do you know how it feels like to be the Cinderella of your story? To live in a constant nightmare? To live in the same house as a NARCISSISTIC person? I do.

It is not a good life. No matter how many times you try to be nice to them, they will always be mean to you. If you are having a conversation and they are wrong, don’t even consider trying to correct them. You will be the evilest person in the room. Oh, but if it is the other way around and you are the one who made a mistake, don’t you worry, they will make sure to let you know that you are wrong.

If you can’t do a task for whatever reason, they will riot on you. But if they don’t do it for the same reason, oh my god, why do you even tell them? Don’t you see they were busy doing other stuff?

No matter what the situation is, they will always be right, and you will always be wrong. It is a constant battle that you can’t win. The only thing you can do is leave that place. Like Cinderella.

Post made possible thanks to: Montse M. 

44 thoughts on “The Cinderella of your Story

  1. I lived with a narcissist who thrived on being the center of attention, and I was so accustomed to making her (my mother) exactly that. One day, one of my greatest friends unexpectedly died and I needed time to grieve. My mother ceased being the center of attention and that did not go over well. I finally had to say goodbye to her, and another long-time friend who turned into a narcissist and I came to realize these relationships were not healthy. The sad part is, a narcissist will try to make you think everything they are doing is your fault, or it is all in your head and there is something wrong with you. It is perfectly OK (not to them, but for yourself) to stand up and say goodbye, or say that is not a way you’ll allow them to treat you. It is rough, but there are times that saying goodbye to people like that is the healthiest choice you can possibly make.

  2. Good analogy – loved – Cinderella is: Kind, strong, and hopeful. We all need to have these characteristics to thrive. Change is hard but if we create mindset we can do it. We need to let go and fill the void with positivity.

  3. Good analogy of the characters! Glad you were able to work through this. It’s tough seeing someone go through those kind of relationships. I can only pray for them and hope they get to a point of surrendering that relationship so that they can move forward and become healthy and thriving!

  4. I think it is very difficult to extricate yourself from a narcissistic relationship, because you come to believe it is you that is the problem. Thanks for sharing your story, and breaking it down to easy to understand characters (Disney).

  5. What an interesting analysis of each princess! As a child, I very much identified with Cinderella as well, but as I got older and allowed that creativity to flow more freely, I find I identify more with Rapunzel now. 🙂

  6. This is very thought provoking! I am taking time to study narcissism lately because of situations in life. The analogies that can be made, the things that I see and the comparisons and signs. Awesome article.

  7. It sounds like you are dealing with a toxic relationship in your life. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, we cannot fix other people. They may not be bad people, but they have a bad influence on us. One thing to try is try to get some distance (which is easier said than done, especially when living with that person), however it is also how Cinderella managed to get away!

    1. The hardest part isn’t getting away, but opening your eyes to believe THAT is what is happening in your life. If it is someone close to you, someone you care about and that you love, it is very hard to accept that reality.

  8. I think that this resonates with me because I grew up in this environment and it literally took me 30 years to figure out that I wasn’t the problem. I think we all have a little Cinderella in us, that little hopeful light that reassures us that no matter what is going wrong, sooner or later it will be ok – it just has to be ok. Maybe our inner Cinderella is a coping mechanism. <3

  9. One of my favorite quotes is from the new live-action Cinderella (I actually am mentioning it my newest post) … “Have courage and be kind.” It’s so simple, but so powerful. We have the power to control our actions and emotions and the ability to not allow the people around us to impact our energy.

  10. I love how you took your child hood favorite and turned it into an interesting though-piece about how she relates to the modern woman! Very insightful.

  11. Yep we lived with a narcissist in our family. Thankfully our family member divorced him. It was awful. Love how cinderella never changed. Never thought of it that way.

  12. My favorite princess is Belle — she is headstrong, stubborn, passionate, and always looking for adventure. It is the good things we see in the pricness that make us want to yearn for.

  13. I’ve never thought about it that deeply but you are right. Cinderella remained kind and true to herself despite the circumstances around her. What a beautiful lesson to each of us!

  14. I really appreciated your video. I was raised by a very narcissistic dad. I always loved him and protected him, but I knew that he was ALWAYS perfect. In fact he told me, “I would be perfect if I had Humility,” Fortunately, I wasn’t like my daddy. I treated people with kindness and love. I married someone who was very much like my dad in a lot of ways. He wasn’t as overt as him but had similar characteristics. He was charming and charismatic. He also liked to be the center of attention. I would later discover that I protected him just like I did my dad for many years. I was in denial about how he treated me in our marriage because of the good times that we had. Oftentimes times I would tell myself that I was blowing things out of proportion and I would stuff how I was truly feeling. It lead me to act out since I wasn’t being true to myself. I see how much this damaged my psyche for many many years and in the end we divorced. Unfortunately, my behavior was the cause of the divorce in his eyes when in reality it started way before any of that ever started. It is sad that he will never get help because the nature of a narcissist is that they don’t see a problem. The problem is with the other person and if the cause of the divorce is from something like addiction or infidelity it is very easy for them to point a judgmental finger and say, “It was your fault“ and walk away. As is the case in my situation he can justify his actions. There is always more than one side to every story. I take comfort in knowing that my side is heard when I openly share it on forums like this one. Thank you

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