Welcome to this Christmas Special Post.
Here from No Broken Crowns we want to wish you all a very merry Christmas.
We know that this time of the year is not easy and nice for everyone.
For most of us, it is a time to meet with our loved ones, being family, friends, or partners.
But there is a lot of people out there that during this time of the year they feel very lonely, miserable, and unloved.
It could be because they don’t get along with their family, because their friends are busy and they can’t meet, or because they just feel too anxious to even go to parties and events.
I have always said that Christmas is a festivity to enjoy with your family. Gathering together, eating enormous meals, singing, dancing, maybe playing cards, or watching a movie.
Recently I realized that my perspective of Christmas shouldn’t be that one. As I said at the very beginning, you are supposed to spend this holidays with people that you love, not with people that you are SUPPOSED to love.
Because you choose your friends and your partner. Well, not entirely you, but your heart. And your heart chooses to love them. But you don’t choose your family. When you are born, they are already there, or they are born after you. It is not your choice.
Of course, since they are your family, you learn to love them and accept them over time. Or it could be the other way around, and you learn to not accept their stupidity.
There are two ways of dealing with Christmas holidays:
1.- As I suggested on the Special Thanksgiving Post: simply not going.
2.- There is this therapy method of dealing with anxiety and depression: exposure. It is not recommended for people with high fear or panic attack disorders, since it can make the symptoms worse. But if you have social anxiety, general anxiety disorder, OCD or depression, it is a good starting method. Getting out of your comfort zone will make you grow. Your brain will learn that there are other ways of living. As I also mentioned in the Special Thanksgiving post, you don’t have to stay there until everyone else wants to leave. You are free to go at any time. And you are not obligated to join every social event.
Having said that, I hope you all have a good time with your family, friends, partners, pets, or by yourself. Your happiness doesn’t depend on anyone.
It is entirely yours.